Do you ever notice how children nearly always have an immediate answer to the “What do you want to be when you grow up?” question?  They rattle off one or more things, “A nurse, a lawyer, a mailman.” Creativity flows endlessly in children.  But, as adults, we can sometimes get into ruts and get trapped in a cloud of “I don’t know what I want to do with my life.” To me, this signifies that something is blocking your creativity and preventing you from connecting with your inner guidance and your heart’s desire.  So, how do you release yourself from this bondage and reconnect with that child-like creativity? 


One exercise I use with my clients is from Christine Northrup’s book Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom. This book is basically an encyclopedia on women and women’s issues. I highly recommend it. Try this exercise (see below) at home. Find a quiet space where you will not be interrupted or ask a trusted friend or your spouse to guide you through the exercise.


Don’t think about these questions before you answer. Pretend you’re a child, creating your life exactly as you want it, no holds barred.  How would your life be? Your inner guidance knows exactly what your heart’s desire is.  When you open your mouth and remove the breaks – and get the judge out of your head for a minute – your inner guidance will come up with the right answers.


If you need help getting going, imagine back to when you were eleven.  What did you love to do? Who were you? Who did you think you would be? Imagine yourself now, telling the world who you are – and who you are going to become.  Speak it to your image in the mirror – tell it to a friend or to the wine.  Call that eleven-year-old back, now.  She’s got something to tell you. Take her into the future with you and let her become everything she ever dreamed she would be.



Answer each question for 3-5 minutes by yourself or with a friend.


  1. If you were in optimal health, what would your life look like?
  2. If anything at all were possible, quickly, easily, and now, what would your life look like?
  3. Who would be in it?
  4. What would you be doing?
  5. Where would you be living?
  6. What would you feel like?
  7. What would you look like?
  8. How much money would you be making?

After you have completed the first part of this exercise, imagine that it is one year from today. You have been able to create everything that you wanted, plus more.  Everything that you dreamed could come true and is now true.  You are celebrating and looking back over this phenomenal year.  You’ve created all of it almost magically, through the power of connecting with your inner guidance and wisdom.  After you feel this scene fully, tell your partner (or your journal, or your image in the mirror) in detail about everything that you’ve created, share how excited you are, and invite him or her to celebrate with you.  Keep talking for two to three minutes without censoring yourself. Just let it flow – like a child playing make-believe.  If you can’t dream up any circumstance for the future, just imagine feeling joyous, light and happy.